Human behavior could be very deceptive if you are inexperienced with their cues or rather; if you don’t have an understanding of the interesting.
I couldn’t thread halfway in understanding them beyond the level any novice would – what triggers people to act the way they do and why they respond to those triggers were something I couldn’t tell.
In my second year as a high school senior, I had two beautiful girls sitting behind me who cried about everything: from losing their notebook to losing their pen. I couldn’t tell why then, but now, I believe I can come in terms after years of experience studying psychology at the
Well, you must not go through years of study, but with a little understanding of basic facts, I believe you will be able to relate well with people.
So let’s go walk through it together…
People who positively change their facial expression (smile) can improve your mood
I found this behavioral technique in “Awaken the Giant Within” by Tony Robbins, and it has proved successful in helping me get over a sad moment in a matter of seconds. You can try it!
This is effective because when you smile your brain releases stress molecules called neuropeptides that help to combat stress. Also, hormones like dopamine (happy hormone), endorphins (painkiller), and serotonin (antidepressant) are released to positively enhance your emotions.
When women cry over little things, they do it to feel better – Consciously or unconsciously.
Everybody cries, but we no women cry the more, and it is healthier. They do it to free up their emotions thereby, giving themselves access to mood improvement, pain reliever, emotional balance, and the detoxification of the body through the release of tears. So when your woman wants to cry, just hold her close and rub her back.
Biologically, when we cry, our body releases endorphins which is a feel-good hormone and oxytocin which helps to calm your body down. I guess it’s the reason behind the two beautiful girls that cried most of the time during my high school days.
Sarcastic people are creative and with sarcasm, they trigger receivers to be creative.
If you are overly sensitive and impulsive, you will hate sarcasm and its expressers. On the other hand, if you love them, you will be highly inspired to be sarcastic.
It might create conflict, but research by Li, Francesca, and Adam (2015) shows that it improves creativity and encourages abstract thinking.
This explains better why sarcastic expressers are relatively smart people and think out of the box. If you have sarcastic friends, you can envisage them. This will help you understand better.
Good liars are better at detecting the lies of others.
I once knew someone during high school that lied about everything. He was an acute liar and it took me time to know. I am not saying that I am a very sincere person, but if you rarely lie, you would find it hard to detect when others are lying, especially if the person is a professional.
Skilled liars could hardly be played because they exhibit distrust, believing that people have tendencies of lying as they do. They also know the pointers of liars, especially those who are not occasional or pathological liars.
Low self-esteem people are prone to criticizing others
Low esteemed don’t just lack confidence and feel bad about themselves. Sometimes they are irritable and feel domineered by people around them even though those people don’t intend to.
Their irritability and mediocre feeling influence them to likely assume others who are above them to be a threat to their self-image, thereby criticizing and abasing them to be as lowly as they feel they are.
For example, my neighbor that sings would defame a popular singer or an upcoming artist. He also would abase people who seem a little bit pompous even when they don’t seem to show off.
His low esteemed self would want to figure out why someone is better than him even when the person is far from being so. When they see any little pointer that tells them a person is not better, they criticize it. It gives them a positive resolve to know they are better at a thing.
Tiredness triggers honesty and self-control triggers dishonesty.
According to a study from Harvard University and the University of Utah in the year 2014, people are more likely to be dishonest in the afternoon because the moral slope gets slipperier as time wears off.
They tend to be more untruthful in the afternoon than in the morning because the day’s activity has made them more alert. This is why you should look for the truth in the morning when people are just getting out of bed or in the night when they just left the day.
In the night, when people are feeling sleepy, they are given to be unconsciously sincere because they have lost their alertness and there is a greater psychological depletion. This is when you can get your spouse to tell you the secret concealed for ages.
It is in our nature to have empathy, but not so in being violent – It is learned!
R Brian Ferguson (2018), opines that war is not a part of human nature, in other words, suggesting, empirically, that violence is not innate, rather it evolved with the man as the society becomes complex over time.
For instance, soldiers are made and not born.
Another observable point is the learning and unlearning of violent behaviors based on the environment.
Empathy is innate as a result of the firing of the mirror neuron that triggers us to intrinsically connect with others socially, and at the same time empathize with them.
Forgetting is a behavior that depicts high intelligence.
Do you know why you have memory loss, even though you were not diagnosed with any pathology?
You don’t have any brain injury, do you? I guess you are okay, but the issue is that you keep forgetting. Don’t worry, it’s a sign that you are intelligent and you can retain new memory.
Scientific research has proven that your natural forgetting occurs as a result of brain decay that occurs to give room for a new memory to form, thereby, giving you more opportunity to retain new data.
There is no expensive or cheap purchase.
People around you often think you either buy cheap things or expensive things. Well, it is not expensive to buy a Ferrari as much as it is cheap to buy corolla. They are both rational purchase.
Cheap things are directly proportional to their quality as it is for expensive things with their quality.
On both ends, none is expensive; it is just our brain telling us that higher quality is more expensive while a lower quality is cheaper.
People with an innate skill always get paid before you pay them.
Innate skill workers are intrinsically motivated and are driven by passion. They are paid by the joy and happiness they receive from doing what they love and it is not so with those that learnt a skill.