There is much to be lost by being coy and shy, and there may be surprises by approaching slowly.


The reason why many fans fall in love with Yitian Hu is not only because of his good looks, but also because of his role in “To Our Simple Little Love”, which is the most popular movie of the year. He plays the role of Jiang Chen and the female lead plays Chen Xiaoxi until the final ending of the whole drama sweet to fried, let many fans chase this drama.

Some people say that Chen Xiaoxi can be really happy to be proposed by a man like Jiang Chen. The reason she can be happy is because she loves Jiang Chen unreservedly, and she actively and bravely pursues her love,she held her love year after year.

Some people also said that Chen Xiaoshi’s love is too humble and bitterly, the reason she was suffering and the reason she was separated from Jiang Chen for three years, is that she is too active, she loves someone without reservation, and is destined to be touched by that person’s every nerve, or cry or laugh, these all depend on the other person.

Some may ask if a girl should be aggressive or not when she likes someone so much. If you take the initiative too much, you’re afraid that you’ll be laughed at and backstabbed, that you’ll be rejected, that you’ll be hurt. If you’re not active, you’re afraid he’ll be slow to open up and eventually lose him.

So, in the end, should the girls take the initiative? look at the following points.


A girl can be aggressive, but all your efforts should mean something.

If you like him a lot, then you can aggressively pursue him and make him understand your feelings, but every little thing you do should mean something, thus you can continue to like him.

You bake him a cake, he eats it and tells you it’s sweet; you knit him a scarf, he puts it around him and tells you it’s warm; you have a gift for him and he will take you very seriously and say thank you.

In this way, your like is rewarded. If the other person is indifferent to all your efforts, he will not change his attitude towards you, will not speed up the response to your tweets, will not pick up your phone and don’t see all your efforts, then don’t take the initiative, because it’s pointless.

We can love and pursue someone with all our heart and soul, male or female, but all the intention we put into it, should have meaning, otherwise it’s like a meat bag beating a dog, there’s no going back, no matter how much thought and love you put into it, it will never have a outcome.


Personally, I prefer to wait for the boys to take the initiative.

I’ve heard a saying that men chase women through a mountain, women chase men through a veil, and many people say that as long as the girl takes the initiative, then often it was easy to chase the boy.

But was it really? My best friend was in love with a guy, and she did whatever he told her to do. He told her to be quiet, and she just kept hugging her phone to chat with him. He asked her to deliver a snack, and she’ll order it right away, he asked him to recharge his phone bill, and she’ll recharge double.

My friend and I said, the pursuit of the whole six months, all efforts have been tried,she  accompanied him to drink, to the Internet, to play ball, but the other party just wasn’t impressed, and felt like he just treated her like an obedient servant, who servie tea and water.

Until one time, she saw the boy took the initiative to buy flowers for other girls, she understood that the boy is not indifferent to her but has no feeling with her.

A guy tends to be more desperate than a woman when it comes to someone he doesn’t like, if he doesn’t like you, even if you slept with him. 

So yeah, you have to understand that it’s good that you’re taking the initiative to show your feelings, and if he likes you too, wait for him to take the initiative to ask you out.


No matter who initiates it, you have to know when to stop.

In the drama To Our Simple Little Love, the only person I feel bad for is Oh Baek-sung, who is utterly and completely in love with Chen Xiaoxi.

He went to the infirmary to get a bunch of medicine for Chen Xiaoxi as she pretended to have a stomachache; Chen Xiaoxi wanted Jiang Chen’s gloves and made the excuse that it was too cold, he went and bought gloves for her; Chen Xiao Xi said he wanted to see snow on Christmas, so he risked disciplinary action by going to the rooftop to artificially drop snow.

No matter what Chen Xiaoxi says, he will take it seriously. Whatever Chen Xiaoxi wants, he will do it.

But he’s so tired of loving, so humble, that there were times when I wished he’d let go of Chen Xiaoshi quickly, because there is limit in every human relationship.The limit is that after we’ve loved someone with all our might, it’s hard to let go of getting back into a relationship.

You should know that if a person doesn’t love you, even if you give her the world, she still won’t love you.

After taking the initiative, if it doesn’t work out, give it up before it’s too late, and love is never complished enough by taking the initiative and being touched.


In fact, whether it’s a guy or a girl who takes the initiative, we should all be serious about pursuing our feelings and love with all our might! It’s a good idea to let give up without leaving a trace of miss.

If you like a person, express yourself well, and take the initiative, there is no shame, shame is those who like but do not dare to say, eventually miss the person.

If you have a favorite person, you might as well take the initiative to tell him.There is much to be lost by being coy and shy, and there may be surprises by approaching slowly.

– Maybe the love story belonging to you two, will start from there.